Sometimes I forget the power of positive thinking. Okay, that’s actually a lie, and I apologize. What I meant to say was I always forget how little other people use the power of positive thinking, and it baffles me. To me it is a no-brainer. Every single day, in every single situation, I am looking at the glass as not only half full, but that I am the one that is holding the jug to fill it up. I have all of the power in the world in my hands, so I will exercise that right.
Yet there are so many people out there that I end up talking to on a daily basis that are just down on themselves. Some days, it is like every single person I talk to is an old Country Western song; car’s broke, girlfriend left me, she took the dog and I lost my job.
Phew! I could not even give that paragraph another sentence it was so toxic. I truly believe that YOU are the only person that can control the environment around you. YOU are the only person that can change your day from terrible to amazing. So why doesn’t everyone think positively? Why does it seem like a great breath of fresh air when I meet someone who is upbeat, positive, and enjoying life?
There are a few reasons I can think of, but it all comes down to one thing: How are you thinking? Sure, surroundings have an effect on you, such as environment, music, lack of music, sunshine, blizzard outside, but your thoughts on all of that have more of an effect on your actions than anything else.
If you’re thinking negatively about one thing, it will take a lot of positive thinking to change your mindset. Dwelling on failures, whether in a relationship, business, personal, physical or mental will only further your time spent in negative land.
As Ms. McKay says in D2: The Mighty Ducks, “CHANGE IT UP!”
Once you start looking for the good or the positive in your life, you will see that it becomes a little bit easier to see the bright side on a lot of things. You begin to smile a little more, maybe even let out a little giggle, or heaven forbid, a full laugh. Life becomes a lot easier when you start looking at the bright side of everything.
Does that mean that you should not dwell on the bad in life, like the death of a loved one, the loss of a job, or the failure of a relationship? No. You need to grieve, and that is purely human. What I want to get across though is there is always a lighter side. Memories of loved ones no longer with us can make a moment or event that much more special. Losing a job can be financial ruin, but only if you don’t get on the high horse and find yourself a better job, or even better yet, your dream job. Failed relationships are exactly the same, the best is still out there if it didn’t work out. Remember, only when it is raining or storming can you see a rainbow.
The next time you find yourself on the negative wheel going round and round in circles, take the following simple steps.
- Take a big deep breath, hold it for 5 seconds, then exhale.
- Say either out loud or in your head: “I can change that.”
- Change it!
- If you can’t change it, you need to accept it for what it is.
- Move on to something else, and look at it with a positive light.
I am a sucker for a positive attitude, and you would be surprised at how quickly one can spread. The same is true for a negative attitude, but who wants to be in an environment where everyone is negative all the time. I would much rather be fun, laughing and having a good time.
So the next time you are being negative, or feel that creeping up on you, just remember the 5 simple steps above, and keep on chugging along.
Question: What other ways do you help yourself get off of a negative Thought Process and move onto a positive one?